ROI for BW

 KSC writes:

"To me, its not even about the men. Its about US. Its about looking at OURSELVES and evaluating the R.O.I. for what we invest in. Are we getting a good return on investment for all this 'emotion' we pour into other folks and their causes? Black males are the biggest 'other', but as Aaron said, white women, and even our own children, are in there too. We must start to ask ourselves: ***what is left for us, after we pour into everyone else.***

When the airplane hits a bump, and the masks deploy, we are told to put our masks on FIRST, and THEN help others around us. If we fail to do so, we can pass out, thus leaving everyone without oxygen. THAT is the exact metaphor for black womanhood. We so busy emoting, saving, rallying, protecting, and defending everyone else, that we end up with no oxygen for ourselves!

And then we wonder why we are always so burdened and stressed.

We have the wrong idea of what Motherhood is. We think its about being the Sacrificial lamb. We think we need to be like 'Jesus', suffering on the cross for ingrates who are happy to see us burn. We think THIS is 'love'. It is warped and dysfunctional, and we will remain under the Curse of it, until we wake up.

How do are you honoring "God's" creation, which is YOU, if you allow YOU to be diminished, dehumanized, degraded, denigrated, denied and destroyed. To me, that is the ULTIMATE blasphemy against GOD.

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In our aim to kill the "mammy" within, we need to confront and discuss the mindsets which stop us from knowing the difference between being kind and caring and being EXPLOITED.

In all the giving, sacrificing, pit bulling, "riding or dying" there comes a time when we need to ask what are we getting out of it, especially when black women are the poorest demographic in America. When we are outliving our money, dying from preventable diseases, being killed at far greater rates than others.

We need to ask ourselves: WHAT IS IN IT FOR US? That is not being selfish, it is engaging in SELF-CARE.

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